Sunday, 22 October 2017

Note to my 20 year old self


I am writing to you from the future.

You are an ambitious young man, full of life and passion, and as you contemplate what will come, allow me to share with you what roads to take as well as what not to do.

Through your own effort you have got yourself into a good university and are surrounded by new friends. Yes, you still miss the friends you made in junior college and even some of the ones in high school. But you are never one for dwelling in the past. However good that was, we have to live in the present and move on to the future.

My first advice to you is to continue to enjoy your days on campus. You have already taken the opportunity to do things you dreamed about: play in a rock band, play rugby and various other sports you enjoyed in the Varsity Games. The university is like a microcosm of the world. Everything that is out there in the “real world” is available (in safe mode) on campus. So, the learning you acquire in University is not just about your course of study but also about life, including how to be responsible for yourself and others. Be curious and try as many of these activities esp. those you are passionate about. For instance, you may not know this yet but the musical you wrote and produced will be performed to a sold out crowd! I will tell you now that these activities will play a big role in job interviews to come as prospective employers find these accomplishments different and exciting.

Speaking of jobs, your hunt for one will not be easy. You will apply to many. Some will reject you outright. Quite a few good companies will call you up for interviews but the only job offer you will get is with S. The learning here is that beyond your CV which is what the companies base their call-up on,  in these interviews they are looking for real examples that you are interested in them and the world, that you can apply your knowledge, that you can get things done (either as an individual and more importantly as a team player). In other words, go to these interviews and express yourself fully, with purpose, honour and courage. The people you will meet do not know you and unless you express yourself, they will not know you enough to give you a job.

When on your job, take a longer term perspective. Market conditions, political circumstances and the global environment are in a flux. Nothing will ever go exactly as planned. So, there will be ups and downs. But so long as you understand what you are aiming to accomplish (for yourself and for the company) in the long run, say 5 years out, even a failure in near term will be acceptable. Especially if you turn it into a learning and adapt the journey forward. No experience is ever wasted. In the words of Winston Churchill, “failure is never fatal; success is never final.” Indeed, if given a choice to choose amongst recruits in the future, I would always pick the one who has failed and rise and rise again each time. Indeed, your lessons from the successes and failures in S and then in A will be the key reasons why you got into B and rose quickly therafter.

Fourthly, a whole range of disappointments will befall you. It is inevitable because there are too many variables outside our control. Consequently, how you progress in the organization may seem underwhelming. Let me forewarn you that you will be first assigned to Bangkok, and then Ho Chi Minh City, while your colleagues get Hong Kong, London postings. The miracle of this is being posted to these Southeast Asian stations will serve you far better in the future. When in the running to be the Head of Southeast Asia for B, your knowledge of these markets will be of obvious importance. In other words, all the dots in your life will and do connect. You will however not see it as such, in the moment, when you are looking forward. We can only see it connecting looking backwards. So, have faith, my young friend that divine intervention is always at work. This doesn’t mean you can sit back and do nothing. My tips above need to be acted upon and you can then be assured God will take care of the rest.

Which brings me to my final point of advice in this letter. Around this time, you will meet the love of your life. Of all the divine interventions, this is the most uplifting one. She will catch your eye with her bohemian style: short hair, wooden ear rings and earth tone clothes. You will see her in the canteen. You will see her in the computer lab. You will write to her (with inspirations from the heart) and leave these poems on her bulletin board anonymously. You will pluck up the courage to reveal yourself. You will discover a shared interest in photography. You go on a “date” cum photography field trip with her. You will prepare a mix tape for her. The two of you will fall in love. She will embrace the faith and indeed be the rock at home in years to come. By the way, I should add that this is not your first love. I know you have already been disappointed romantically before. This one, however, is forever. God will make sure of it. Have faith.

 

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