The larger perspective

We are alike, you and I. We have a shared love for music, so much so we have this perpetual soundtrack of our lives in our heads. I shared with you why when artists pass, I mourn them; not because I know them but rather how their songs made me feel. Indeed, when I am happy, their beat drive me higher and when I’m sad, the lyrics soothe me.

Typically, when there is a soundtrack, there is also a screenplay, ie a plot, with a beginning, and then an ending. Sometimes, the ending even has a new beginning: a sequel. The point is there is always something more to play for, to reach a larger goal.

The best movies, the best books, in fact all the best stories are so because there are highs and lows. The lower the lows, the higher the highs, and the better the plot.

You’ve recently had a number of lows. You can let the lows consume you or you can get out of it, learn from it and go seek and achieve a higher high.

Getting out of it requires an ability to step back. Understand what you did wrong. If it was a stupid mistake, own up. If it’s not, comfort yourself that you could not have avoided it in any case. In either case, move on.

Moving on means learning from the episode(s). Some are lessons in judgment, some to do with trying harder, and most are about being more careful.

Seeking the higher high is the sweetest revenge you can inflict on the lows and the forces that cause them.

 

There is so much more to enjoy in your life, M, and I know you are so well set up to make the most of these: your knowledge in particular your understanding of what the problems are, your intuition on who is good and not, your care and support for your team, be it when losing and winning together.

Most of all, there is so much more music to discover, enjoy and even to play. We all write our own screenplay to this soundtrack.

So, darling, every time you are feeling low, go listen to the blues, hear the words, then step back, see the larger perspective and know that your movie is far from over and the lessons will get you higher