Sure when they were babies, D was always by their side but I am mostly travelling for work and only home on weekends.
And we get to talk a lot especially during meal times. J asked a good question on our parenting style.
I said I tried to instill values I find important: passion, vision and courage and gave them examples of how I inculcated that. From enabling J's bug collection to encouraging them to think beyond the near term and being responsible for most of M's scars from letting go of her bicycle or letting her roller blade down the slope at Green Meadows. I can see how some of these lessons have sunk in and hopefully will propel them forward, give them strong wings, as the expression goes.
D on the other hand does not tend to overthink things. She does what comes naturally and the lessons she imparts to the kids are through examples. In her case, I'd call out three as well: faith, filial and help. First and foremost, she leads a spirit-filled life and through her, M & J have also become pious faithful Catholics. She is an exemplar in filial piety, towards her parents, parents-in-law and her care and concern for them knows no bounds. She is also a true friend, always ready to help in all circumstances. These traits which she so fully manifest everyday in life should have transmitted to the young ones and hopefully have given them truly deep roots.
So, there you go, a combination of deep roots and strong wings. Yet, we would be the first to say that we haven't got everything right for like all humans, we have our failings: from being inpatient to having a short temper and insisting on enrichment classes. More importantly, we tried to always do what's right and we did it with all that we have.
That, in a nutshell, is our parenting style.
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